Resolution
One of the many things our father did for us was prepare us for the future. In terms of the mindset, choices, stability and relationships.
Of course, all three of us interpreted his teachings in our own way based on our experiences of life at the time.
In my case, for 2 years I was basically his shadow everytime he went out. These interactions with him built my face-value so that people associate me with him and recognise me and when I went alone they knew whom I represent.
At one point he started sending me in place of him and I used to experience doing things in his absence. These activities gave me a sense of how I would do those things for myself.
I was 14 y/o at the time when I remember helping other elderly people with their forms and stuff at the bank while they would look at me going “How do you know this?” and “Which school do you go to?”
I practiced these grown-up tasks for the next few years and I could do them without having to look at it twice. That was a kind of training he gave me for my adulthood.
Now, when we turn 18, we become legally independent and unlock some new responsibilities but turning 18 doesn't unlock the capabilities we need to justify or even address those responsibilities. These capabilities are only built through practice.
Building these capabilities as minors helps us be responsible adults, instead of being just adults with responsibilities.
People come up with new year resolutions every year but, what they fail to do is to create an environment that enables them to realise these resolutions so that they gain momentum and enter the new year with a set routine of sorts.
This doesn't mean that you can't develop the adulthood capabilities after turning 18—you can. Similarly, 1 Jan is just a date on the calander, you can decide you want to take charge of your life right-now and start working on it right then and there.
Birthdays and New Years don't dictate your decisions.
Set-out chasing curiosity, find your purpose and working on yourself, sooner-the-better.
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