Border
The land of Freedom & Friendship.
Ever since I started educating myself, one of the things that I've firmly believed in is that dichotomies don't exist. There is always a middle ground, and it is perhaps the best place to be in—compared to either side.
When I was writing Order & Chaos, I had a feeling that something was wrong, and I realised that making it sound something along the lines of "There are only two kinds of people; the ones who are in the Chaos and those in Order Phase." was incorrect because there is always a middle ground.
Here, let's call it “The Border”. This middle ground is a bitter-sweet space where you are still in a bit of chaos, but you also get a taste of order.
One of the things I'm well known for in our college is the number of friend circles I have.
Many people have told me that it's not possible to have 20+ great friends or it's not good to try and maintain those many friends because eventually there will come a time when you'll have to choose between two, and it was led to a painful ending and stuff, but I just shrug it off and continue being a good friend :)
Every room on campus has someone who knows me or someone I know. Some are very close to me, and the others, not so much, but we're close enough to feel comfortable around each other. Not just on-campus, I also have friends elsewhere, in different Organisations, States and Countries.
There is a close circle of people dear to me, and I also have a lot of really close friends who have their own circle of friends they hang out with.
I like to call them my "Border Circles" friends, and these folks are legit good friends regardless of how long it has been since we met.
The best part about having these many close friends is that everywhere I go, I belong. It's pretty rare that I feel like I'm among strangers, and I try my best to give them that same sense of belonging when they are in a group where I'm the only one they know.
And this is not restricted to random groups in a canteen or parking or something like that. Even if it's a large-scale event like Freshers Party, Annual Day, College Orientation, or FEEL, I take pride in saying that I am able to casually walk in and help them out with almost anything they might need with absolute freedom.
This has made me realise that, for you to be someone's best friend, it's not necessary for you to be physically present with them all the time —although it's great if you can— but having that mutual trust and belief in one another that "If things go south, I can count on him." is all you need.
Those are the friends whose eyes light up when they see each other, whose hand automatically starts the handshake pattern they only do with each other. That first bump, that high-five, that hug, and that weird name only they call you.
I'm blessed to have this wide variety of supportive, funny, silly, helping, weird, dark, and cringe friends, and I treasure them all.
If you have many friends, cherish them.
If you have a few very good friends, keep them close.
As these are just my early days of writing, I know almost all of my readers at a base level but still, if someone reading this has no friends, then know that you have a friend in me and I know plenty of people who'd love to be your friend!
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